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It is important to understand that grief is not a linear process.  We do not start at one stage and then progress through to the final stage.  Instead, grief is cyclical.  It is entirely possible that one will reach acceptance, and then one of life’s milestones occurs like a wedding or graduation, and suddenly we are angry or sad again. 

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Last week I reached out to parents to ask how they were coping with the current global situation.  Overwhelmingly I heard, "I'm doing fine, I just am not sure how to help my child".

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Trying to maintain your "normal" routine right now is unhealthy, because what we are experiencing is not normal.  Trying to go on as if nothing has changed is invalidating and can actually invite trauma to manifest in alternate ways. 

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Trying to maintain your "normal" routine right now is unhealthy, because what we are experiencing is not normal.  Trying to go on as if nothing has changed is invalidating and can actually invite trauma to manifest in alternate ways. 

Today's post is going to be brief. The video below was shared with me in one of my counseling groups.  It is a succinct look at what you can do to stay physically and mentally healthy during this time.

As we have said before, what we are currently facing is unlike anything any of us has ever experienced before.  We are in the midst of global trauma.  This situation can be triggering past experiences of trauma for some of you which can be manifesting in ways such as mood swings, changes in sleeping, eating, and hygiene patterns, and even body aches.  One of the strategies for coping that we talked about was maintaining a routine, however, this should be a quarantine-specific routine, and not your "normal" routine.

Trying to maintain your "normal" routine right now is unhealthy, because what we are experiencing is not normal.  Trying to go on as if nothing has changed is invalidating and can actually invite trauma to manifest in alternate ways.  Here is a sample of what your quarantine-routine could look like:

- Actively work to get 8-10 hours of sleep every night

- Shower and brush teeth daily

- Drink plenty of water and nutritious food daily (this doesn't mean you can't enjoy snacks, just be sure to balance it with fruits and vegetables)

- Wear clothes for the social life you want, not the social life you have (this means get out of your pajamas!)

- Move for 30 minutes every day

- Spend at least 10 minutes meditating, journaling, coloring, or practicing gratitude

- Spend at least 15 minutes reading something for pleasure

- Attend and engage in your online classes

It is normal to be experiencing a variety of feelings right now.  It is also possible, that you might be having a hard time articulating or understanding how you are feeling.  I invite you try to the following journaling activity.  In a journal, notebook, or even on a piece of paper (just not digitally), write the following prompts:

- I feel worried

- I feel scared

- I feel sad

- I feel angry

- I feel guilty

- I feel confused

- I feel happy

- I feel hopeful

- I feel excited

- I feel grateful

After each prompt, spend some time free-writing.  You can start by saying when, that, or because and then just see what flows from you.  Try not to overthink, and especially, do not judge yourself.  Remember, all feelings are valid!  I it is important to write "I feel" and not "I am", because feelings are not permanent and they do not define who you are!

Please remember that I am available should any of you wish to speak one on one.  Just send me an email and we'll set up an appointment.  Stay safe and be well!

 

 

 

Enough

When we compare ourselves to others, we’re not making an accurate comparison because we’re only going off the information we have access to

Grief

It is important to understand that grief is not a linear process.  We do not start at one stage and then progress through to the final stage.  Instead, grief is cyclical.  It is entirely possible that one will reach acceptance, and then one of life’s milestones occurs like a wedding or graduation, and suddenly we are angry or sad again. 

HELP!

Last week I reached out to parents to ask how they were coping with the current global situation.  Overwhelmingly I heard, "I'm doing fine, I just am not sure how to help my child".

F.A.C.E. C.O.V.I.D

Trying to maintain your "normal" routine right now is unhealthy, because what we are experiencing is not normal.  Trying to go on as if nothing has changed is invalidating and can actually invite trauma to manifest in alternate ways. 

April Attribute of the Month: Knowledge

I cannot think of a great opportunity for learning than what we are all experiencing right now.  We are all learning new ways to teach and learn.  We are all learning new ways to connect with others without physical contact.  We are all learning new ways to be alone or be with our partner or be with our family.

What If?

 Talking through the “what if”s is validating because you are creating space to listen. Using reflective listening, you are able to convey empathy.  Another reason this strategy is effective is because it allows the person to think about the tools she or he already possesses and how she/he can use those tools to get through whatever they are fearing.

Jiggle Friday

As I was cycling around my neighborhood yesterday, I noticed two of the sakura trees had bloomed.  So of course I stopped, got off my bike, and snapped a picture.  And it was a great reminder of how even when the world feels like it is in chaos, we can still count on nature to reassure us

Go to the Mat!

There is a famous line in Francis Ford Coppolla's, 1972 Academy Award winning film "The Godfather", that says, "We go the mattresses".  This line was made famous again in Nora Ephron's 1998 romantic comedy, "You've Got Mail".  Essentially, "go to the mattresses" is an expression that means to prepare for battle.

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